It may not be widely known that Chris enjoys a glass of sherry.

Chris and I were neighbours in Berkhamsted and best friends for many years, and our kids grew up together. My love and thoughts go out to Claire and Jonathon at this time.

When we "mislaid" our husbands', Friday evenings became a regular get together at the end of a long week. The phone would ring (no cell phones then) and one of us would ask "your place or mine?" depending on the level of chaos. Even the snow and ice would not deter us. Then we'd troop over with kids in tow, who vanished in a flash upstairs. The sherry would be lined up in large glasses and we'd natter away and put the world to rights. It certainly saved our sanity.

When I emigrated to New Zealand 21 years ago, phone calls were VERY expensive and I would generally call about once a quarter if there was a special on and we'd both have the sherry out even though one of us would be calling in the daytime. Then Skype came along and we were able to call for free and "see" each other....

Visits to the UK have been relatively frequent as my family are still over in UK. Living close to Heathrow, Chris was always first on my list to visit and last before we left on the long journey home and we still enjoy a glass...or two.

I am due in the UK in four weeks and it will seem so strange and unreal not to be "dropping in" on my dearest friend but be assured I shall be raising a glass somewhere in Berkhamsted.

But I know, dear Chris, you are now at peace and free from all the pain and suffering you endured without a bad word. Over the ten years I never once heard you say anything that indicated you were sorry for yourself...cross sometimes that you weren't  strong enough to do things. Your attitude and your response to this awful diagnosis was that "its a chronic illness and with all the wonderful advances I can keep going until they find a cure."

I spoke to Chris a couple of days before she finally lost her battle. She was bright and chirpy and telling me "it's just another blip Chris, don't be sad" and we laughed and joked for a few minutes. We both knew this was goodbye. 

She was a wonderful mother, the bestest of friends, and the most generous, warm and funny LADY. We have lost a lovely human being far too soon but she will live on in our hearts and minds and encourage us to be strong and laugh.

I will always miss you Chris - Fondest love Chris xxxx